Boundaries!

Boundaries are a journey of coming home to ourselves. A practice of learning how to first feel IN, and then, honour ourselves by taking outward steps in alignment with who we, inwardly, truly are. Its not always easy to inner focus first, or feel safe enough to authentically express ourselves and our needs.

During our Tea-Time session we learned our boundary styles, explored guided meditation,  learned how…

“NO… is a full sentence”

The process of feeling IN, and learning to attune to our own inner needs takes practice.

We need to ask ourselves often…

Right now… What do I need?

Right now… How do I feel?

How am I BEING… in this moment?

Then, can we find the courage to honour the answers we received from our own heart-body wisdom?

Finding the safety and courage needed to self-attune and truly honour ourselves may become easier if we understand that:

Boundaries PROTECT our relationships.

Boundaries are not about keeping others out… they are about keeping us IN.

Boundaries are not walls… they can shift, ebb and flow and be flexible.

Something that has helped me on my own boundary journey is learning how to say NO… while saying YES to LOVE.

I can set boundaries with LOVE.
I can set loving limits.

We may not always know what we even need. Especially if we have spent a lifetime orienting towards others. I love the simple empowering act of first giving ourselves time and space to fully BE with us, before agreeing to the requests of others.
We can learn more about ourselves and our needs by not responding immediately and saying simple things like:

“Can I get back to you about this?”

Boundaries help us come home to NOW, attune to our own bodies, our unique needs, and our inner Heart Wisdom.

Giving ourselves space, time, and grace to feel into our true self and our needs, helps us to naturally grow healthy boundaries.

If we can be lovingly “with” ourselves first, we PROTECT our relationships and have the vitality to LET LOVE WIN!